When in doubt, write it out: Intuition and its shortcomings.

Convoluted contrivings of misguided countenances contributed to my misunderstanding of the molecular meanings that were wrapped up tightly in your measured words. Yay consonance! (In less fluffy terms: In my opinion, the emotion on your face and the words coming out of your mouth didn’t match up.) This is something that counselors look for in clients who are dodging certain issues, but we “normal” people do it every day too. Anyways, I’m not sure if I have an actual purpose in writing at this moment. But does writing always have to have a purpose?

Sometimes the purpose comes out after you slap a few words down. I’ve started several journal entries with “I don’t know what to write…” or “Blah, blah, blah.” Usually I’m pretty frustrated and can’t think straight when I start off that way. Getting my thoughts on paper usually remedies that though, and even if it doesn’t help me figure my thoughts out, the mini catharsis helps a little.

When I’m a counselor (IF I’m a counselor), I think I’ll have all my clients keep a journal. It’s a great way to mark personal progress once you get the hang of it and stop lying to yourself…I mean, start recognizing your defense mechanisms and actually dealing with stuff rather than shoveling problems into your subconsciousness.

But dealing with stuff takes so. much. energy. Being counseled is tough work, if you’re in it to win it (why am I using so many annoyingly catchy phrases tonight? Aka idioms…had to look that up. Ashamed, but not really). But being a counselor (by nature, not just by title) is tough too. Always thinking. Always wondering. Always looking for the hidden messages inside people’s actions and words (I may be giving too much of myself away here). That probably sounds like a slight case of paranoia. Not necessarily so. I just like to read people—not to hurt or harm, usually just to help. But you can’t give help to those that don’t want it or aren’t ready for it. I have to remind myself of that sometimes.

I also have to remind myself that not everyone thinks like I do. Not everyone listens to what’s not said. I don’t all the time… Sometimes I just sense it. I guess you could call it a type of discernment, in spiritual terms. And I’m definitely NOT right all the time (thank goodness). I’m pretty sure that this search for the truth in people is/will be a blessing to me as I grow in my faith and in my career. But it can definitely drive a person crazy if it’s not balanced.

Ah, balance. The key to enjoying life. Workin’ on that. Balance takes time, and I’m pretty sure that it goes hand in hand with discipline, which I’m also working on. I feel like it might take me the rest of my life to get it at this rate though.

I’m working on balancing and testing my intuitions. Sometimes they’re right; sometimes there wrong. Usually the best thing to do, I’ve found, is to sit on them for a little while and see if they keep coming up or if I find further evidences,then decide on a course of action or inaction. Not sure why I sound so…scientific? I’m really not. I like to think I am sometimes…but it’s really just dabbling.

Welp, this article (link below) is pretty much exactly what I’m talking about…but the site comes off as somewhat manipulative. Things that we do naturally can be taken a little too far. It’s knowing when to stop so that you’re actually benefiting the person you’re communicating with/reading. The goal is to help, not to harm others or yourself. We’ve all got our own sacred space. No one sees into our minds completely except God. No one can utterly invade our privacy. (I’ll always be safe inside my mind…*twitches somewhat violently*) Definitely an interesting article though.

http://www.towerofpower.com.au/dirty-tricks-of-psychology-for-mind-reading-and-the-roots-of-empathy

It is interesting to see just how much psychology, body language, and words influence relationships…especially in business, politics, and other high-stake, power-driven interactions. Body language is the same way though. You can speculate, and maybe get a pretty good indication about a person’s emotional state, but there’s no guarantee that you’ve got the winning ticket (no more, I promise). And this site freaks me out a little bit because the logo reminds of the Tower of Babel. Just sayin’. Take the information with a grain of salt (dang it!)

So…here’s the moral of this rather lengthy post: Intuition is good, but it isn’t always guaranteed to be right. Trust God more than you do yourself (and others) and learn to recognize the Holy Spirit’s voice (by having a relationship with God through studying his word and through prayer). Use your skills to build others up, not to tear them down or advance yourself. Let God advance you. He’s more than capable. If you’re pretty sure about your observations, pray about them and ask God for some confirmation. Finally, trust him to work in you and through you. He can cover over your mistakes when you make them.

I’m going to try to take things at face value a little more often—keeping my intuition handy, but in its holster rather than constantly drawn.

Oh Father, help me take my words and apply them to my own interactions daily.

In the words of one of my professors, “counselor, counsel thyself.”

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~ by kassieabel on May 5, 2012.

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